In relationships we tend to search for a certain "type" of person. One thing we don't do is determine whom we are before we start looking for our other half. I strongly believe that if you want to be happy in life you must "find" yourself before you find someone to be with. You must be happy and LOVE yourself as you are or make changes and then you can find someone to share life with that will LOVE you and be happy with you as you are.
I have been married and divorced. After my divorce I wondered if anyone would ever truly love me. I spent time thinking I would never be happy. And you know what I was right! As long as I continued with that way of thinking I was exactly right. It took a few months to a year to determine who I was again. I wasn't the person I was before I got married and I didnt' want to be the person my marriage had turned me into. I wanted to be better than that and to love myself. I found that I had to dig deep to find something I loved about myself at first. I had to learn to take compliments from men without cringing and thinking "yeah right." The first time I was told I was beautiful made me cry. Not cry is a sad way but happy cry. I was so happy because I felt beautiful and someone else saw that. Take the time to find yourself and love yourself before you expect someone else to find you and love you. Have a great day and check out the books I've listed here and in other blogs. Happy Monday!
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